有礼,无礼

cute monkeys from last Fri Mypaper.
非礼勿看，非礼勿听，非礼勿讲。。。if everyone knows and internalize this.
Believe world peace is easily achievable liao.

And why is this so hard? A senior once shared with me there are 2 difficult things on earth. One is to take other people's $ and put into our own pocket. The other is to put your own thoughts into another person's brain!
That's it ! Educating is never easy becoz it requires changes of a person.

Speak abt educating...It's the same for educating our younger ones. I finally settled for this sentence on educating my boys. One of the core values.
"有礼走偏天下，无礼寸步难行。" if one does not have the basic courtesy, politeness, one wont never be near success. So, Im not the law maker of the hse, I wont say stuffs like "u dont listen to me = u are disobedient."
for definition of obedient = I dont know.
For definition on 礼, well there are plenty of books left by sages.
礼运大同篇is one. 论语is another.

It's hmmm... challenging but Im going to try my shot at it !

Making friends with ...weird people?

THis morning in office, had a short conversation with C on another colleague, J.

Me: J's new job requires him to use Excel often and I was sharing some basic with him to help recap.

C: WOW...u are on so close terms w him. even have his facebook. haa haa... he still give me the impression of a bit weirdo. Tot i hv shared w u some encounters w him.

Me: haha.. Yes, I know but I guess I like making friends w weird people.

What is the definition of being weird?
When one does not go with the crowd?

ooooh no no... this is certainly not morally right.
We all know this but really standing up for something we believe?
IT CAN BE SOOOO HARD!!! Peer pressure? society pressure?

孔子-十有五而志于学，三十而立，四十而不惑，五十知天命，六十而随心所欲。。。
even Kong Zi needs 60 years old to be 随心所欲 stage... let alone us?
A part of me wants to stand up for WHAT I BELIEVE.
A part of me always remember how grateful I was when a sweet gal made the 1st initiative to make friends with me. It was the 1st day of sch. I was in Sec 1 and was then an extreme introvert. A plain Jane with a pair of big frame glasses. And the sweet gal... one of the popular gals in sch.

Hey, I'm reaching 30 years old now.
IS this call aging with grace? Self-confidence usually comes along with age.
SO what if they are weird? But what many is not aware is that when one go near enough with this category of people, they are more real and sincere than other.
Talking to them is always a feeling good, and relaxed time for me.

**Seeing is not always believing. SOmetimes, one wld need to close his eyes to feel the real. It's seeing thrg another window.

The Act of communication???

MYpaper (我报) dtd 21 Sept 10...An article by Ms Shenton on sharing
'HOW TO GET ALONG WITH DIFFICULT COLLEAGUES'

see the sub headers in BOLD for the 4 type of Pple - Arrogant, Cold, Show-Offs & Mean. Sorry I have tried a few times but cant seems to get the picture in the right position.

Interesting~
Well written and true for general cases... But what if... there's complication? such as a person who sometimes cold and sometimes warm? What's the matter with this kind of person? Of coz, I cant expect EVERYONE to be nice & sweet to me all the times isnt it. For everything tt happens, there must be a reason.

Ok, theory is just theory, not quite possible to illustrate all the possible scenario that can happen when it comes to practical.

I'm more of a micro perspective kind of person.
So, meaning to say...focus more on the details.
And maybe it explains why Im more interesting in pple / matters surrounding me compared to hmmm... what's gg on around the other side of the world?

PPLE surrounding me... argh... Yess. Im interested in human behaviors. THE DEFINITIVE BOOK OF BODY LANGUAGE by Allan & Barbara Pease is one of my favourite.

This is the kind of stuffs that really interests me. *chucks*
NOt that I want to understand and manipulate pple. It's more of ermm...
understand, being sensitive to the other party's feelings. And from there use the appropriate way of communication.
The art of communication.

a few days ago, I chanced upon an application form for degree sponsorship dtd 5 yrs ago. What did I apply for? BSc Business with Psychology? haha...I'm surprised I was even selected for panel interview.

Now is the period for sponsorship again.
This year, I did some 'survey' beforehand.
More prepared this time round and I'm feeling confident I'm going to get it.
My dream to own a degree seems near. Seems so near.
Wish me luck ~

Go Fly Kite ...la la la

Bunch of Vegterians & their Veggie Kids & Veggie Dogs go fly kite at Sengkang Riverside Park on Hari Raya (10 Sep 10)...Photos by JunBao & Meijie

Kite Flying Preparation...


Kite Flying Time...


Makan Time...Thank YOu Junbao Meijie for the noodles & XiangChunBread. Thank You XuYan for the Loti too. and myself for the cake.


Special zoom on YuXiang...


Special Zoom on YuKuan...


Group Photo...

too bad the 2 doggies dont click (not in the same frequency)

Would you do my Eulogy?

Inspired by D-Guy next Door, his expression towards current news & affairs is so natural & in his own style that it makes me ponder " If I were to express my thoughts like this, who wld b my target audience? I mean, Who wld want to know or Understand my thoughts & views?

And then, a couple of mths ago, I finished a book called "HAVE A LITTLE FAITH" by Mitch Albom.

The man of God asked the writer to do his eulogy.
He insisted that he had to know him better.

Yess...EULOGY...this is when people would want to know what kind of person I am. if that's the case... maybe this place would be a good source for the person who would be doing MY EULOGY. I have started inserting some personal thoughts / recently if one notices... hee hee

On the writer, Mitch Albom, I actually like his earlier book "Tuesdays with Morris" better.

I read it twice. It's more touching...I even thought maybe I can do some sharing from the contents... but..haiz... seems like my standard is not there yet.
Give me some time... I'll come back to it again one day.

Sandwich Making Competition

How does this photos look to you? appealing ? Is it talking to you " Come and have a bite "
Well, this is the 1st runner-up in Healthy Sandwich Making Competition.

It's INCREDIBLE !
Us? coming up with something of this standard.

But guess what, I actually self-blamed myself that day after the competition ended.
I thought ... my presentation really...(#(#*$(@&#^*@
Quite a rubbish. So happen I have a record.

The self blame didn't lasted longer than a weekend.
I have accepted me as ME. This is my standard now, and I can't possibly thought I would be standing on the stage blowing pple off, right?

So I reflected on Areas for Improvement ...
1) The part on the MC, ya, that guy knew me and he sending regards to both my boys -- caught me off guard.
From now on, shld someone ask "how do u do?" OR "how are u doing"
I wld reply "(singing) VERY WELL, I THANK U~"
2) I did my homework, BUT I just can't say out the NuTRIONAL BENEFITS of the ingredients we used. ARGHHH ! We used wasabi and I knew pple was scare of wasabi ... in a sandwich. So what is wasabi good at? IT PREVENTS CAVITY !
All these add on to my experience "folder".
And I'm still proud that I was courageous we took part in the competition and EARNED ourselves $100 NTUC vouchers each. *grin*

From left to right: Alice, Candy, SMRT CEO-Saw PH, Fit&Fun Mascot, Me, Marlina (my ex-Mgr) & Richard (my HOD)

My pretty girlfriends

I have a group of pretty girlfriends...
and on 3rd July 2010, one of them walked down the aisle and here's a group photo of us !

Wow...Look at us...who would have expected this from the very team of YTSS V-ball team some 13 years ago?

From left to right: Me (Jersey No. 8), LiZhen (Jersey No.12 - our setter), XiaoHong (Jersey No. 2), Kris (Jersey No. 9 - the bride), Xingni (Jersey No. 4 - our Captain), RuiYun (Jersey No. 10). Juliana (She's wife of dear friend, Eugene).
Absence: Qiuling (Jersey No. 6).
And here's one of our training time photo taken years back...
wahaha...able to recognize who is who mah?

ok, I know most of the ladies wouldn't want to be recognize.
How abt ending this post with some pretty photos taken at the wedding then...

Universal Studio Singapore

(singing) We are gg to the Universal Studio, how abt u u u? u can come 2 2 2 ...we r gg 2 e universal Studio.

Making entry




Fun Time Inside










Thank You my lovely sis & Jiewen for asking us to Universal Studio!
Date of Adventure: 15 Jul 2010.

Flute Fingering Practise

ohh Yess ~
today is ...Wednesday and after delaying for 3 days, I finally pushed myself to take out the flute and start on the fingering.

Memorizing and getting familiar with them - the 1st step is always the hardest isnt it?
I had to make friends with them ~ and obviously I needed some help here...

pasting yellow stickers to mark the buttons which need to be pressed.
and then I went "c...D...C...D...C...D...........D...E...D...E..."

And my accomplishment for the night is... Note C, D & E...

Surrounded by Inspirations~

The 1st point of Inspiration.
Recently I noticed a young, good looking guy from my company.
He always take the same train as me on the way home and alight at Khatib.
My 1st guess was that he stays in khatib.
And then, I cant help but ponder "How come a guy with such fine qualities would head home everyday after work? should'nt guys his age be partying somewhere instead?"

I may have learned to become more out-spoken over the years, but I still find myself SHY when face with guys ard my age. haha... Serious. I'm still introvert in many areas. Give me a uncle, or auntie in the same situation, I wld hv approach him/her long ago.

But I have nothing to lose ma, since I'm already a auntie with 2 boys le.
So one day, I started a conversation with him and now we are friends. *smiles*
see... Another proud moment for me. Ok, 说重点.

重点is as I got to know him better, from him, he reflected that a family oriented guy of our generation still exist because mummy & granny is the reason behind heading home direct after work. A person who is not afraid of standing for what he believes is morally correct. Well, in chia liat world today, 道德堕落的社会， this fellow earns my respect already.


The 2nd point of Inspiration.
I attended a talk By Mrs Ching on 2 Sep @ HQ and I'm so glad I made the choice to go that morning.



From her, it's very obvious that they are practising 爱的教育.
爱的教育...this sounds so familiar to me. All the positive educating tt brings out the good of even someone whom everyone deems is good-for-nothing.

Turning "impossible" to "I M POSSIBLE"
turning capturing bad acts on CCTV to ONLY captures the good acts 24/7.

After attended the talk, I had the impluse wanting to make a proposal to have all XTY levels & abv to arrange a learning tour to NorthLight.
It really remind us the real purpose of having all these classes in FT.

I also had the impluse wanting to go back to DJB again.
Wanting to take up the heavy responsibility of educating the kids.
Sure, it would mean EXTRA Effort to think of POSTIVE ways to communicating w them, how to conduct activities to them, and making them learn what's MORALLY Right which wld benefits them LIFELOng learning.如何做事 - usually can be learn in sch. but 如何做人 - hard to find a good teacher I would say...

如果可以，那我希望明年我可以出来了愿-回去读经班。
因为我相信。。。I believe I can make a difference.

Changes : A confession + new directions + New Look

Ohhh...omg
just realized the last time I post blog was on 19 July!
And that is like 1..2 mths! W/o new postings?!?
Ooh... What am I doing???

Am I just being S.L.O.W or I'm lazy or...
Am I being mean to myself w all these self blame words or are these just excuses ?
Lots of thoughts in my mind now.
This is called the thoughts trap; one thought coming after another thought.

Ok, let's stay focused, jump out of the thoughts trap and get organised.
Here's what TO-DO Lists:-
• universal studios trip
• Phuket trip
• achievement - healthy making sandwich
and... What else....
• yuxiang playing harmonica
• yukuan walking video
hmm... That's abt all of now.

And ... One announcement...I'm taking flute lesson now!
Started 2 Saturdays ago ... Though each lesson only lasted not more than 30min
Huixi is my teacher and she is constantly remind me to prastice my fingering.

Fingering ...fingering...
Look at this chart

It is sure giving me some stress :(
anyway... I think I can survive one once again. Haha (must have faith)...

I WILL MAKE IT FOR MAR 11 Grade 2 exam!!!!

and btw... I have just re-vamp.
is re-vamp the word to use? Anyway, it's change a new look to my e-dairy.
Look more refreshing ya ~ symbolise new engery ! yeah !